Listen To Understand | Wednesday Words #4

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I hope your week is going wonderfully!!

This week's Wednesday Words quote is, "Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply."

I think that realizing this is important. Listening with the intent to reply rather than understand, is obviously not the worst thing in the world that someone can do, because so many people don't realize when they, or even others are doing this. But if you start to pay attention, you will see that you, and so many others around you tend to do this.

So many people want to be able to get their opinions or their advice in when conversing with others instead of really trying to understand what the people around them are saying or what they actually need to hear.

I will randomly think of this quote and try to remind myself that I don't always need to tell the people around me what I'm thinking. I don't always have to put my two cents in. In some cases, it is way better for me to keep quite and learn things about the person I am talking to.

If you listen to understand rather than to reply, you will do just that. You will understand. You will gain so much understanding of the things and people around you, and it will lead you to becoming a less judgmental person. Rather than seeing people and automatically making judgments and assumptions, you will want to understand them.

I hope you enjoyed this weeks Wednesday Words and that maybe you will start to listen to understand.

Also! There will be a post about my NYC trip this past weekend, probably before the end of the week!

With Lots and Lots of Love,
Marissa! <3

Wednesday Words #3

(So sorry, I thought I scheduled this to post yesterday at 3pm, but I goofed up. So here it is now! Please excuse that its a day late! My apologies!)

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Hello!!

As always, I hope your week is going wonderfully!

This weeks quote for Wednesday Words is, "You may not always end up where you thought you were going. But you will always end up where you are meant to be." I absolutely adore this quote. It's actually (believe it or not) something that I remind myself everyday.

Being a senior in High School this year, means its my last year and that I am going crazy, pulling my hair out looking for colleges and trying to figure out what I want to be for the rest of my life (Aaaahhh!!! Scary!).

Some people struggle with the fact that they don't know everything that's out there and don't want to chose until they do. Others know about almost everything you can do but still haven't found the one thing they want. And then there is people like me, who just want to do everything!!!!! Let me tell you that wanting to do everything may sound good because then you have so many options, but, it's not great if you're as indecisive as me. 

One thing that I have never liked hearing is, "Before you go to college, you have to figure out what you want to do for the rest of your life." 

That is wrong. 

It is perfectly fine, for you to go to college with a set plan and to fulfill that plan. Whatever your chosen major is, can be what you do for the rest of your life. But it is also perfectly normal for you to go to college with a set plan, and end up suddenly changing your mind somewhere along the way and end up in a completely different place you started off heading to. It's even perfectly fine to go in with a bunch of different plans, and see which one you end up fulfilling. 

That is the case with everything in life. People who expect everything to turn up picture perfect in their life, or who expect everything to be easy-peasy on whatever journey they go, and never accept the fact that neither of these things will ever happen, are not usually happy people. People who do that almost always end up getting so stressed in trying way too hard to make this ideal plan happen, when a lot of times, it's not where they are meant to go in life. Sometimes you have to just let go (let it gooooo, let it goooo) and let what happens, happen. 

Don't worry, this isn't just my, inexperienced, haven't even lived two decades yet, seventeen-year-old opinion. Many adults that I know have told me stories of how their life worked out this way. How they thought they had it all figured out and would only be happy in this plan they created for themselves, and are now in completely different situations than they planned and have never been happier. 

So don't get yourself worked up attempting to execute this perfect plan for yourself, when you just might belong somewhere completely different. 

Hope you liked todays "Wednesday Words"!! With Lots and Lots of Love,
Marissa! (: